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Supporting Yourself and Loved Ones Through Mental Health Challenges: A Guide for Mental Health Awareness Month

Supporting Yourself and Loved Ones Through Mental Health Challenges: A Guide for Mental Health Awareness Month

May marks Mental Health Awareness Month, a time to reflect on the significance of mental health and the support systems needed for those of us who are grappling with negative aspects of it. Mental health struggles can be isolating, overwhelming, intensely confusing, and often invisible to the naked eye. Yet, amidst the darkness, there can be light in the form of empathy, understanding, and unwavering support from loved ones. When we speak about mental health, we often only highlight the down sides of mental health struggles, and forget to mention the incredibly positive impact taking care of and supporting our mental health can have. 

The Invisible Burden: Exploring the Disparities of Mental Load and its Impact on Women's Mental Health

The Invisible Burden: Exploring the Disparities of Mental Load and its Impact on Women's Mental Health

The Invisible Burden: Exploring the Disparities of Mental Load and its Impact on Women's Mental Health

As we celebrate Women's History Month, it's crucial to shine a light on issues that continue to affect women globally. One such issue, often overlooked yet profoundly impactful, is the mental load women bear within households. Often described as the “invisible work” of managing a household and family, the mental load encompasses everything from organizing schedules and finances to remembering birthdays and doctor appointments. While both partners in heterosexual couples may contribute to household tasks, studies consistently show that women disproportionately shoulder the mental burden.

Tired of Failing at New Year's Resolutions? Here’s a Simple and Effective Strategy to Set You Up For Success Instead.

Tired of Failing at New Year's Resolutions? Here’s a Simple and Effective Strategy to Set You Up For Success Instead.

Tired of Failing at New Year's Resolutions? Here’s a Simple and Effective Strategy to Set You up for Success Instead.

As we head into a new year, you might start to think about New Year's Resolutions to help you reach the goals you want to achieve in the year ahead. That works well for some of us, but what about those of us who have the best intentions but end up falling short of our goals year after year? The research says to start with why you want to pursue those particular goals.

Navigating Workplace Toxicity as an LGBTQ+ Individual: Strategies for Self-Care and Advocacy

As an intersectional therapy practice, and human beings living in NYC, we support our clients who are members of the LGBTQ community both in our individual practices and in the realm of advocacy. We live in a country where Pride parades, celebrating love and true expressions of self, are happening simultaneously with anti-trans legislation in our governments. The National Human Rights Campaign has declared a national state of emergency for LGBTQ+ folks, given the increased legislative assault against this community. 

A gay pride protest in support of the LGBTQ community. If you are dealing with workplace toxicity because you are LGBTQ, working with an LB+GBT Therapist can help you understand your rights and develop coping skills.

Know Your Rights

If you’d like to know your rights in each state, the NHRC has listed LGBTQ+ legislation on its website here.


An Alarming State of Affairs

It is unfair, alarming, and disheartening that individuals who are part of the LGBTQ+ community are and have been dealing with prejudice, discrimination, and dehumanization on so many levels. 

Workplace Toxicity is a Common Issue for the LGBTQ Community

One place we’ve seen this discrimination manifest in our work with clients is in the way of workplace toxicity. Discrimination, prejudice, and harassment persist in many work environments, making it unfortunately crucial for individuals to develop strategies for self-care and advocacy. As an intersectional therapy practice, we understand the unique challenges faced by LGBTQ+ individuals and aim to provide empowering strategies to navigate workplace toxicity effectively.

Acknowledge Your Emotions:

The first step in addressing workplace toxicity is to recognize and validate your emotions. Experiences of discrimination and microaggressions can be deeply hurtful and emotionally draining. Give yourself permission to feel your emotions without judgment. Seek support from friends, loved ones, or a therapist who can provide a safe space for you to express your feelings.

Cultivate Self-Care Practices:

Self-care is essential for maintaining your well-being in the face of workplace toxicity. Engage in activities that nourish your mind, body, and spirit. This may include practicing mindfulness, engaging in physical exercise, pursuing creative outlets, or spending time in nature. Prioritize self-care consistently to build resilience and foster a sense of balance.

Seek Allies and Support:

Building a network of allies and support within your workplace can be invaluable. Connect with coworkers who are accepting and understanding, as they can provide emotional support and solidarity. Consider reaching out to LGBTQ+ employee resource groups or affinity networks, where you can find like-minded individuals who share similar experiences and may offer guidance or mentorship.

Two LGBTQ people support each other as they deal with workplace toxicity. LGBTQ Therapy in NYC is a great resource for self-empowerment.

Document Incidents:

It is crucial to document any instances of workplace toxicity, including discriminatory comments, harassment, or unequal treatment. Keep a record of dates, times, locations, and the individuals involved. This documentation can serve as evidence if you decide to pursue formal channels such as filing a complaint or seeking legal recourse. Remember to consult with legal professionals to understand your rights and options.

Educate Yourself and Others:

Knowledge is power. Educate yourself about workplace policies, laws, and your rights as an LGBTQ+ individual. Understanding the legal protections and anti-discrimination policies can help you navigate the system more effectively. Consider sharing this information with colleagues, managers, and human resources to promote awareness and a more inclusive work environment.

Advocate for Inclusive Policies:

If you feel like you have the energy and desire to do so, you can become an advocate for change within your workplace. Many individuals feel so burnt out from the experience of a toxic workplace, that they don’t want to, or feel like it should be their job to advocate for themselves. We hear you, and that feeling is valid. But, if you’re feeling up to it, you can work with others to encourage the implementation of inclusive policies, diversity training, and anti-discrimination measures. If you feel safe to do so, you can consider sharing your experiences and insights during diversity and inclusion initiatives or proposing LGBTQ+-related events or workshops. Your voice can have a significant impact on fostering a more inclusive workplace culture.

Explore External Support:

If workplace toxicity becomes overwhelming or persists despite your efforts, consider seeking external support. Connect with LGBTQ+ advocacy organizations, legal services, or professional counseling to explore your options. These resources can provide guidance, advice, and assistance in navigating complex situations and ensure your rights are protected.


You Are Not in This Fight Alone

Navigating workplace toxicity as an LGBTQ+ individual can feel like it requires resilience and a proactive approach to advocacy, but we want you to know that it’s not all on you. You don’t have to carry this burden alone. By acknowledging your emotions, prioritizing self-care, seeking allies, documenting incidents, educating yourself, advocating for inclusive policies, and accessing external support when needed, you can empower yourself to navigate toxic work environments. Remember, you deserve to work in an environment that embraces diversity, respects your identity, and values your contributions.

A gay couple stand nose to nose smiling as they have found support to overcome adversity through LGBTQ Therapy in NYC.


If You Are Facing Workplace Toxicity as an LGBTQ Individual, LGBTQ Therapy in NYC is Here to Help and Support You.

If you feel like you could use some additional support in navigating a workplace that isn’t supporting you, the therapists at the New York City Psychotherapy Collective are here to help and support you. Our therapists uphold our ethical standard to always continue learning both as practitioners and supervisors, for example by taking continuing education courses like “Fundamentals of Therapy with LGBTQ Clients,” and “Intersectional Authenticity with LGBTQ+ Clients,” among others. We encourage you to pursue frank and open discussions with your therapist of how race, culture, gender, sexuality, and any other identity markers will show up in the room during your work together.

Follow the steps below to get started:

  • Click here to share some information about you so that we can match you with the perfect therapist for your needs.

  • Have a low-pressure, 20-minute call with your therapist to make sure they are the right fit.

  • Schedule your first session and start on your journey to feeling better right away.

We offer specialized services for related issues like Anxiety, Depression, LGBTQ Affirming Therapy, and Therapy Specifically for Young Adults. We can help you feel less overwhelmed, more relaxed, and more like the self you want to be.

Contact us here to get started today!

How to Manage Burnout and Take Care of Yourself Better

How to Manage Burnout and Take Care of Yourself Better

THE BURNOUT SERIES

PART 2: HOW TO MANAGE BURNOUT AND TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF BETTER

While burnout is a symptom of a stressor, we often can’t entirely eliminate the stressors present in our life. So, learning how to manage the impact of stress and prioritize our well-being is the best way to manage and reduce burnout. Go to Part 1 to review what burnout is, how to spot it, and what causes it!

What is Burnout, What Does it Look Like, and What Does it Mean?

What is Burnout, What Does it Look Like, and What Does it Mean?

THE BURNOUT SERIES 

PART 1: WHAT IS BURNOUT, WHAT DOES IT LOOK LIKE, AND WHAT DOES IT MEAN?

By now you’ve probably heard of burnout. In our culture of wellness and self-care trends, we are often told that if we buy this new lotion, pay for a massage or a facial, or attend a retreat we can cure our burnout. And while that may be true, these quick fixes don’t often address the underlying causes of burnout and address the lifestyle changes that can help us reduce and prevent further burnout. 

Why Do I Feel Like I’m Running Out of Time?

Why Do I Feel Like I’m Running Out of Time?

As we get close to the end of 2022, more and more clients are coming in with the same complaint: “I feel like I am running out of time.” They note a feeling of wasting time, losing time, and a desire to appreciate and make the most out of their time. There is an underlying fear that they won’t have enough time to do whatever it is they want to do or think is important to do. This sensation of quickly running out of time spans genders, age groups, and life circumstances. Where is this coming from and why is it so acute right now?

How to Stop Catastrophizing & Why “Expecting the Worst and Hoping for the Best” Doesn't Help

How to Stop Catastrophizing & Why “Expecting the Worst and Hoping for the Best” Doesn't Help

How to Stop Catastrophizing

We often think that if we can “plan for the worst and hope for the best” then we will be both prepared for disappointment and pleasantly surprised by success. Unfortunately, what we fail to realize is how powerful our minds are, and that when we plan for the worst, we unconsciously create conditions for the worst to come true.

Preventing Burnout and Staying Sane During the Holidays

Preventing Burnout and Staying Sane During the Holidays

Stress, anxiety, and depression can become amplified during the holidays. Even when all of our demands are things we actually want to do, the sheer number of obligations during the months of November and December can overwhelm even the best planner.The trick to managing the season is not to think you can conquer the stressful events in your life, but rather to create conditions in which those events don't drown you. You can decrease the impact the demands of the holidays have on you while increasing your enjoyment of the season.

How to Manage Anxiety When You Can't Control the World So You Can Actually Get Stuff Done

How to Manage Anxiety When You Can't Control the World So You Can Actually Get Stuff Done

How to Manage Anxiety When You Can't Control the World So You Can Actually Get Stuff Done

During a time of external crisis, our biological drive to predict and prepare for the worst possible outcomes can backfire, causing employees to become paralyzed by fear of the unknown. Successful employees often thrive on taking action. They see a problem, they identify a solution, and they execute. When the desire to take action can’t be met, employees can feel increased anxiety with no outlet for it.

How to Find Joy in Your Work Again

How to Find Joy in Your Work Again

How to Find Joy in Your Work Again

The past year and a half has taken its toll on all of us. For many of us, navigating work, parenting, relationships, health, and worry has left us on autopilot, having a hard time finding enjoyment in anything. If you used to like your job, or even if you never did, you have an opportunity to try to find some level of fulfillment from your work again as you look forward to returning to some version of normal.

Why Do We Get Such Satisfaction from Zillow Stalking Houses We'll Never Buy?

Why Do We Get Such Satisfaction from Zillow Stalking Houses We'll Never Buy?

Why Do We Get Such Satisfaction from Zillow Stalking Houses We'll Never Buy?

There is a healthy voyeurism to it, in the same way we watch reality tv and read people’s money/food/sex diaries online. We get to look at houses staged by others, judge their taste, and imagine ourselves either in their lives or the life we would design if we lived in that house.

How to Be There For a Friend Facing Losing Everything

How to Be There For a Friend Facing Losing Everything

How to Be There For a Friend Facing Losing Everything

The most important priority when talking to a friend facing losing everything is to validate their emotions. Right now they are feeling a jumble, likely ranging from fear, panic, and sadness to anger, resentment, and bitterness. They might blame themselves, their boss, the government, or any number of other factors that you might find unreasonable. The primary way to be there for them is to be supportive. No one wants unsolicited advice, and they definitely don’t want you to tell them it will all be okay when you can’t know that. Once they have experienced their emotions enough to feel like they can see a bit more clearly, or if they ask you specifically for advice, here are some ways to support them.

Spending Isolated Time with Your Partner Can Make or Break Your Relationship

Spending Isolated Time with Your Partner Can Make or Break Your Relationship

Spending Isolated Time with Your Partner Can Make or Break Your Relationship

A lot of us social distanced from others last year, but not our partner, and it revealed strengths and weaknesses in our relationships pretty quickly! No matter what the specific issue is, there will be conflict during intense together time. One way it can make you stronger is by coming up with strategies to work together, not against each other.

Managing Your Children's Reactions to Unexpected Disappointments

Managing Your Children's Reactions to Unexpected Disappointments

Managing Your Children's Reactions to Unexpected Disappointments

Covid-19 has given all parents and caregivers a crash course in challenging conversations. Some of us feel that they weathered the storm better than others, but all parents and caregivers can agree that it never hurts to have more tools in the toolbox to deal with their children’s emotions.

So Your Office Went Fully Remote and You're an Extrovert

So Your Office Went Fully Remote and You're an Extrovert

So Your Office Went Fully Remote and You're an Extrovert

How to survive working from home if you're an extrovert and your office went permanently remote. Like any unexpected changes, our default is to focus on the negative, but you may find that by reframing your mindset to focus on the positive aspects of working from home, you may end up finding yourself a lot happier than you anticipated.