Navigating Workplace Toxicity as an LGBTQ+ Individual: Strategies for Self-Care and Advocacy

As an intersectional therapy practice, and human beings living in NYC, we support our clients who are members of the LGBTQ community both in our individual practices and in the realm of advocacy. We live in a country where Pride parades, celebrating love and true expressions of self, are happening simultaneously with anti-trans legislation in our governments. The National Human Rights Campaign has declared a national state of emergency for LGBTQ+ folks, given the increased legislative assault against this community. 

Know Your Rights

If you’d like to know your rights in each state, the NHRC has listed LGBTQ+ legislation on its website here.

An Alarming State of Affairs

It is unfair, alarming, and disheartening that individuals who are part of the LGBTQ+ community are and have been dealing with prejudice, discrimination, and dehumanization on so many levels. 

Workplace Toxicity is a Common Issue for the LGBTQ Community

One place we’ve seen this discrimination manifest in our work with clients is in the way of workplace toxicity. Discrimination, prejudice, and harassment persist in many work environments, making it unfortunately crucial for individuals to develop strategies for self-care and advocacy. As an intersectional therapy practice, we understand the unique challenges faced by LGBTQ+ individuals and aim to provide empowering strategies to navigate workplace toxicity effectively.

Acknowledge Your Emotions:

The first step in addressing workplace toxicity is to recognize and validate your emotions. Experiences of discrimination and microaggressions can be deeply hurtful and emotionally draining. Give yourself permission to feel your emotions without judgment. Seek support from friends, loved ones, or a therapist who can provide a safe space for you to express your feelings.

Cultivate Self-Care Practices:

Self-care is essential for maintaining your well-being in the face of workplace toxicity. Engage in activities that nourish your mind, body, and spirit. This may include practicing mindfulness, engaging in physical exercise, pursuing creative outlets, or spending time in nature. Prioritize self-care consistently to build resilience and foster a sense of balance.

Seek Allies and Support:

Building a network of allies and support within your workplace can be invaluable. Connect with coworkers who are accepting and understanding, as they can provide emotional support and solidarity. Consider reaching out to LGBTQ+ employee resource groups or affinity networks, where you can find like-minded individuals who share similar experiences and may offer guidance or mentorship.

Document Incidents:

It is crucial to document any instances of workplace toxicity, including discriminatory comments, harassment, or unequal treatment. Keep a record of dates, times, locations, and the individuals involved. This documentation can serve as evidence if you decide to pursue formal channels such as filing a complaint or seeking legal recourse. Remember to consult with legal professionals to understand your rights and options.

Educate Yourself and Others:

Knowledge is power. Educate yourself about workplace policies, laws, and your rights as an LGBTQ+ individual. Understanding the legal protections and anti-discrimination policies can help you navigate the system more effectively. Consider sharing this information with colleagues, managers, and human resources to promote awareness and a more inclusive work environment.

Advocate for Inclusive Policies:

If you feel like you have the energy and desire to do so, you can become an advocate for change within your workplace. Many individuals feel so burnt out from the experience of a toxic workplace, that they don’t want to, or feel like it should be their job to advocate for themselves. We hear you, and that feeling is valid. But, if you’re feeling up to it, you can work with others to encourage the implementation of inclusive policies, diversity training, and anti-discrimination measures. If you feel safe to do so, you can consider sharing your experiences and insights during diversity and inclusion initiatives or proposing LGBTQ+-related events or workshops. Your voice can have a significant impact on fostering a more inclusive workplace culture.

Explore External Support:

If workplace toxicity becomes overwhelming or persists despite your efforts, consider seeking external support. Connect with LGBTQ+ advocacy organizations, legal services, or professional counseling to explore your options. These resources can provide guidance, advice, and assistance in navigating complex situations and ensure your rights are protected.

You Are Not in This Fight Alone

Navigating workplace toxicity as an LGBTQ+ individual can feel like it requires resilience and a proactive approach to advocacy, but we want you to know that it’s not all on you. You don’t have to carry this burden alone. By acknowledging your emotions, prioritizing self-care, seeking allies, documenting incidents, educating yourself, advocating for inclusive policies, and accessing external support when needed, you can empower yourself to navigate toxic work environments. Remember, you deserve to work in an environment that embraces diversity, respects your identity, and values your contributions.

If You Are Facing Workplace Toxicity as an LGBTQ Individual, LGBTQ Therapy in NYC is Here to Help and Support You.

If you feel like you could use some additional support in navigating a workplace that isn’t supporting you, the therapists at the New York City Psychotherapy Collective are here to help and support you. Our therapists uphold our ethical standard to always continue learning both as practitioners and supervisors, for example by taking continuing education courses like “Fundamentals of Therapy with LGBTQ Clients,” and “Intersectional Authenticity with LGBTQ+ Clients,” among others. We encourage you to pursue frank and open discussions with your therapist of how race, culture, gender, sexuality, and any other identity markers will show up in the room during your work together.

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We offer specialized services for related issues like Anxiety, Depression, LGBTQ Affirming Therapy, and Therapy Specifically for Young Adults. We can help you feel less overwhelmed, more relaxed, and more like the self you want to be.

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