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Setting Healthy Boundaries: What Self-Help Books Gloss Over and How To Stay on Track

Setting Healthy Boundaries: What Self-Help Books Gloss Over and How To Stay on Track

Setting Healthy Boundaries: What Self-Help Books Gloss Over and How To Stay on Track

The art of setting boundaries is one that many struggle with, but is a necessary and fundamental life skill that leads to healthy assertiveness, self-confidence, agency, and a positive self-image. Before we can set boundaries, we must identify the behaviors we deem acceptable and those we do not, and make decisions from there that prioritize our well-being without harming others. Essentially, boundaries connect the space where our individuality ends and the realm of others begins. Mastering this skill empowers us to navigate interpersonal dynamics with clarity and ensures a healthy balance between our own personal needs and social interactions that involve others. The good news is that setting boundaries is a skill, and like any skill, it can be learned, practiced, and honed. Even better, the techniques for boundary setting are quite straightforward once you know where to begin.

Tired of Failing at New Year's Resolutions? Here’s a Simple and Effective Strategy to Set You Up For Success Instead.

Tired of Failing at New Year's Resolutions? Here’s a Simple and Effective Strategy to Set You Up For Success Instead.

Tired of Failing at New Year's Resolutions? Here’s a Simple and Effective Strategy to Set You up for Success Instead.

As we head into a new year, you might start to think about New Year's Resolutions to help you reach the goals you want to achieve in the year ahead. That works well for some of us, but what about those of us who have the best intentions but end up falling short of our goals year after year? The research says to start with why you want to pursue those particular goals.

Seasonal Transition, Summer to Fall: A Guide For Young Adults

A young man sits on a concrete bench with his head down on a fall day representing the changing emotions that can come as summer shifts to fall. Therapy for Young Adults in NYC can help.

As the vibrant days of summer start to wane, we find ourselves in the midst of a beautiful yet challenging transition into the cozy embrace of fall. For many, this change in seasons brings excitement about pumpkin-spiced lattes, colorful foliage, and warm sweaters.

Changing Seasons, Changing Emotions

However, it might also bring on fears of seasonal depression, and sadness around upcoming increases in work and school expectations, and ultimately have a significant impact on mental health, especially for young adults who are in the early stages of not having full-length summer breaks. This seasonal shift can influence mental well-being, but we’re here to provide strategies to navigate these changes effectively.

Changing Daylight Hours

One of the most noticeable shifts during this transition is the decreasing daylight hours. As the days become shorter, our exposure to natural light decreases. This reduction in sunlight can lead to a condition known as Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) or the "winter blues." Young adults are not immune to this phenomenon. SAD can cause symptoms like fatigue, sadness, and a lack of motivation.

How to Cope:

  • Prioritize Sunlight: Make an effort to spend time outdoors during daylight hours, even if it's just a short walk or coffee break.

  • Light Therapy: Consider investing in a light therapy box, which can mimic natural sunlight and help alleviate SAD symptoms.

  • Stay Active: Regular physical activity can boost your mood and energy levels, making it an excellent way to combat the effects of reduced daylight.

A young woman stands with her head raised toward the sun as leaves fall around her. Seasonal Affective Disorder impacts young adults in many ways. Learn how to cope with Therapy for Young Adults in NYC.

Academic and Work Stress:

For many young adults, the transition from summer to fall also signifies the start of a new academic year or a busy period at work, maybe even working full-time for the first time. The pressures of meeting deadlines, taking exams, or adjusting to new routines can lead to increased stress and anxiety.

How to Cope:

  • Time Management: Create a schedule that allows for adequate study or work time while also prioritizing self-care and relaxation.

  • Seek Support: Don't hesitate to reach out to professors, colleagues, or supervisors if you're feeling overwhelmed. They can provide guidance and accommodations. You can also consider starting therapy to help you manage the stresses of your transition with a professional support system in place. 

  • Practice Self-Compassion: Remember that it's okay to take breaks and not be perfect. Self-compassion can reduce stress and improve mental well-being.

Social Changes

Summer often provides more opportunities for socializing and outdoor activities. As fall sets in, there may be a natural shift towards indoor and more solitary activities, which can impact social connections and lead to feelings of isolation.

How to Cope:

  • Plan Social Activities: Schedule regular gatherings with friends and family, whether it's a cozy movie night, a board game evening, or a virtual hangout.

  • Join Clubs or Groups: Explore local clubs or interest groups to meet new people who share your passions. If you’re a college student, this might be a great way to get more connected with your community and create lasting friendships based on shared interests.

  • Check-In with Loved Ones: Stay connected with loved ones through regular check-ins, texts, and calls. Facetime is a great tool for finding connection when you’re feeling lonely or distant.

A red headed young woman sits on bench looking toward the sky representing someone struggling with Seasonal Affective Disorder as the seasons change from summer to fall. Reach out to a Young Adult Therapist in NYC for help.

Make Self-Care a Priority

Cultivating Self-Care Practices can be so important during this transition. Things are changing, meaning your needs may be shifting. Checking in with yourself and figuring out the right self-care routine may really help as you transition into the fall season. 

Tips for Cultivating Fall Self-Care as a Young Adult:

  • Mindfulness and Meditation: Engage in mindfulness exercises and meditation to stay grounded and reduce stress.

  • Healthy Eating: Maintain a balanced diet with seasonal foods that boost your immune system and energy levels.

  • Quality Sleep: Ensure you get enough sleep by sticking to a consistent sleep schedule and creating a restful sleep environment.

Prepare for the Fall and Winter Months with the Help of Therapy for Young Adults in NYC.

The transition from summer to fall brings both challenges and opportunities for young adults. By recognizing the potential impacts of this seasonal shift and implementing proactive strategies for self-care, time management, and social engagement, you can navigate this transition and hopefully find joy in the updated routine. Remember that seeking support from friends, family, or professionals is a sign of strength, and it's essential to prioritize your mental well-being throughout the changing seasons.

Follow the steps below to get started:

  • Click here to share some information about you so that we can match you with the perfect therapist for your needs.

  • Have a low-pressure, 20-minute call with your therapist to make sure they are the right fit.

  • Schedule your first session and start on your journey to feeling better right away.

We offer specialized services for related issues like Anxiety, Depression, LGBTQ Affirming Therapy, and Therapy Specifically for Young Adults. We can help you feel less overwhelmed, more relaxed, and more like the self you want to be.

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Why Do I Feel Like I’m Running Out of Time?

Why Do I Feel Like I’m Running Out of Time?

As we get close to the end of 2022, more and more clients are coming in with the same complaint: “I feel like I am running out of time.” They note a feeling of wasting time, losing time, and a desire to appreciate and make the most out of their time. There is an underlying fear that they won’t have enough time to do whatever it is they want to do or think is important to do. This sensation of quickly running out of time spans genders, age groups, and life circumstances. Where is this coming from and why is it so acute right now?

I’m Considering Beginning or Restarting Therapy - What Can I Expect?

I’m Considering Beginning or Restarting Therapy - What Can I Expect?

Beginning or returning to therapy can be a nerve-wracking experience. Taking this step is something to be proud of. You are engaging in conscious and intentional work to ask for help and to begin to build a stronger support system and understanding of yourself. While therapeutic experiences differ across practices and providers, we can provide you a glimpse into what you can expect when you begin online therapy here at the New York City Psychotherapy Collective.

How to Overcome Body Image Issues and Enjoy the Beach Body You Already Have

How to Overcome Body Image Issues and Enjoy the Beach Body You Already Have

Summer is heating up, and if you're like many women, you're struggling with insecurity about your "beach body." You may be emotionally beating yourself up because you didn't spend the winter hitting the gym to be beach ready, or you may have started a fad diet to try to slim down fast. You may even be avoiding attending events because you don't like how you look in your summer clothes. It's time to let go of the "beach body" pressure!